There are a few main reasons why I’m posting this video today.
The first is because it’s important that you know how invested I am in ME. That I’m not just a spiritual dabbler chilling out behind a keyboard preaching quotes from books I love, and pretending as though I understand them.
You have my word on this: I am doing the fucking work. Day in, and day out. Doing the work, in fact, is my favourite thing to do. So rest assured, when I come to you with a video that signifies radical growth in my life, you can safely know that I’ve been putting in the effort. Such is self-love.
Secondly, I know (know, know, know, know, know) that there are many of you that need to hear this message and its motivation that enables you permission to live bigger and differently, and – gulp – more fiercely, as a woman.
And thirdly, it’s because I’m ready to let go. I’m ready to close the door on yet another story in my life, and this is one of them. So while this is somewhat of a coming out party, it’s also a loving funeral. One I want you to show up to and participate in with me.
The take away message, (again! I feel like I’m a broken record lately…) is that I long for you to release your grip on what you think makes you feel safe. Embracing uncertainty is part of the mysterious wonder of this life, and I don’t know about you, but I say bring on the magic.
If you’re one of the beautiful, amazing women that read this blog, who’s been ‘dimming your light’, I encourage you to reach out in the comments, below.
I want to know two things.
Are you ready to let go of that which makes you small?
And if you are, where will you start?
Personally, I’ve been working closely with Belinda on this, but even before that, I started on my chakras. I balanced them daily through meditation and visualisation, and have no doubt in my mind that laying the right energetic foundation allowed me to steadily build up new beliefs, and new confidence.
Also, I started wearing brighter colours, and allowed my body to express itself physically with yoga and pilates. But I would love to hear from you.
If you have any additional questions, please ask away.
I love this so much honey.
Thank you for sharing and being so raw, open and honest.
Love you so much.
xxx
Aww Mel I love you too! What a beautiful comment, thank you xx
Tara…I found myself tearing up watching this.
There is so much gold to be found when we begin to unpack some of our stories, grasp the wisdom but know that we are NOT our stories.
I’ve been going through a very similar cleansing lately – a different core limiting identity but like minded process. It’s hard and it’s beautiful and just when I think I’m there…it keeps unfolding.
Thanks for this tender-hearted vlog. It really connected with me today x
There’s always something around the next bend, isn’t there beautiful?
I’m sorry I made you cry!– but at the same time– I always love hearing that what I have to say can make such an impact on people, so Kirri thank you SO much this gorgeous comment, it means the world to me.
Love you x
Love you too babe. Everything you do pours forward with such authenticity. You’re a blessing x
Looking forward to watching this when I’m not at work! I posted my first ever video post this week about facing fears and I love that you’re in a similar mind frame!
Tara,
What an amazing, passionate and soulful video which has really resonated with me. ” I see you and I see me” as I meet more and more amazing women these words express my experiences lately. I see my potential and instead of judging and comparing, I embrace these wonderful women and strive to be the best I can be. Wow. Thank you for sharing!! Xx
Hi Tara,
I recently got caught up in a one foot in, one foot out type deal with a boy I was interested in. Somehow I was thrust into his friendship group and soon found myself immersed in their party lifestyle, where I had gone from not drinking for 6 months to suddenly downing beers just because they had been placed in my hand.
In recent weeks I have come to realise that I have not been true to myself and have been slowly pulling back. I write this from my parents eco-house in the bush where I have retreated, and from here I feel safe and comfortable to be releasing this tribe of people, as well as this boy who I was compromising myself for. I know it may be a challenge when I return, but I am busy filling up my cup for now.
I was being small! Strong, radiant, powerful me does not wait for phone calls, trek to the other side of Melbourne every weekend or drink so she can fit in.
Last night after pilates, meditation, a bath and some more meditation, I finally turned my phone off “airplane mode”. I had 15 voice-mail messages and several texts from the group of people and from said boy asking me to come back to Melbourne. It was a bit tricky saying no, but I have worked out that each time I let them go, I get better at it (Just like the smoking ads..?).
I hope that others out there are learning, like I am, not to be beating themselves up when they relapse into old ways. I am getting better at asking myself if my actions are coming from a higher place, if this is right for me, and if I am being true to myself. Hot dang, I am , now! :)
Thank you for your reminders xoxoxoxox
Super courageous and spiring post Tara!!! I’m a hundred percent on board with you <3
Love and peace from Brazil! Xoxo!
Thank you Tara. Thank you soooooo much! This video really plucked a heart string and was exactly what I needed to hear. I too have that same feeling where I am drawn to amazing, successful woman that I feel a great connection with. But as soon as I am in their presence I immediately withdraw myself, and become the quiet, shy and inadequate girl in the corner. From one Tara to another, thank you for reminding me today that we are all on the same journey and with my daily self-love practice I will one day stand as tall as every woman that enters my life x
Tara you continuously inspire and move me! I serouisly thank the universe for you everyday x
Tara, you constantly inspire me- wow. That was just the kick I needed. This video is unbelievably powerful- thank you so much ‘coming out’!
I’ve always been a bit of a tomboy too, but I said at the beginning of this year that I’d embrace my femininity. It started with red lipstick (honestly, is there anything better?!) and now I’m moving into creating and connecting with other gorgeous souls sisters. Where have they been all my life? Beautiful, beautiful.
I’m also dealing with huge chakra 2 issues and have been hiding away big-time. Belinda Davidson has also really helped me with this, so much so I had to write a blog post about it (non-plug, promise!) (http://conqueringfearspiritually.com/CFS/beautiful-belinda-and-the-white-light-healing-sessions/)
Thank you so much Tara for being you- love your videos! xx
Hi Tara, You are truly gorgeous, thanks for sharing that beautiful video. I love the realisation that like attracts like…it’s wonderful to look around and see the amazing people in my life and realise that is a reflection of who I am. A big YAY for that!!!! Dee xxx
Gorgeous video … I feel like I have a million things to say but really I think I need to say them to myself ;)
Thank you for giving me some insights into myself again … X
Hi Tara,
I love your open and honest thoughts. That’s really weird, i’ve also been dealing with chakra 2 energies recently…..although a recent survey said it was open, i felt like i needed to deal with it, was in the process of writing / doing my first video post about how Cinderella is an enemy of her own pleasure and dims her light for others…she can’t embrace her own beauty and creativity……been analysing fairy tales in relation to chakras recently too……for some reason number 2 really came up with looking at this one. fairy tales is a very feminine and girly topic, but actually they present the archetypes in us so clearly and concisely, so i love to look at them to help my chakrally heal.
THanks for the video, Clare x
Holy crow I love this space.
I used to do what you did Tara and be ‘One of the Boys’ when I was in high school.
I knew none of them wanted to date me and it hurt a lot so I tried to get in their presence via the friendship route.
Another thing I did at HS was coast through, I wasn’t a ‘bad’ kid but I wasn’t top of the class either. I just came and went and no one really noticed me, mainly because I didn’t want them to.
I’m now at Uni and have finished my BA and now doing my Honours. It wasn’t until earlier this year that I realized that I could actually do something great.
I went to my supervisor with my thesis topic and wondering what job I could get, expecting it to be something not too flashy and rather boring.
It wasn’t until he sat me down and explained that I am a) the first person to undertake the research I’m doing for my thesis and therefore forging my own path and b) have the potential to be a part of changing the way our society works in certain areas and make changes in the lives of people who need it the most.
It was the first time I actually sat down and thought ‘I could do something significant to the world, I could change things’
I had spent so much time trying to be ‘normal’ that it didn’t even occur to me that I could be more than that.
So now I’m on the path and this site has been helping me so much with the growing pains, confusion and frustration. Before I found this place I was panicky about finding a job and making enough money and everything in between. But now I just go to this place and read your posts and everyone’s comments and feel instantly better.
Thank you so much for being you and putting yourself out there so people like me can find you and get Ah-ha moments and comfort from your words.
lots of love, Steph xo
P.s. Sorry for such a long post! and the fact its a little irrelevant but just had to say it.
Hi Tara,
This was such a vulnerable, soulful video. Your energy is so gentle & feminine, the work you have done is evident. major respect :)
It is inspiring to hear such an honest, deep account of your spiritual progress. Thanks for inspiring me & reminding me that my spiritual path is the most important one to be on.
Am i ready to let go of that which makes me small? After watching your vid, I’m feeling more open to re-approaching my latest fear barrier & poking it with a broom to see what happens.
And if I am, where will I start? Hiring a mentor has always helped me push boundaries in my life, it’s like it’s such a huge commitment to get someone else involved in such intimate things, that it’s time to shift stuff. Who is this magical Belinda character?
Thanks for being so open :)
xxx Fran
Hi Tara,
Bless you for being so brave and putting yourself out there.
Golly how I wish that I could have found such courage way back when I was your age.
Congratulations.
Even at my age I will try to follow your inspiration and stop wasting my life. xx
Beautiful words again Tara, I feel your authentic connection with your divine. You speak with such truth. xoxo Love
Thank you so much for sharing yourself for the benefit of all of us. That is something I hope to be able to do in my life, in so many different areas. This video pulled many heart strings. I’ve been holding back my entire life. It was a way of “surviving” life. Now I am ready to actually LIVE life! Because I was so shut down for so long, I have been working so hard healing and releasing all that. I am still doing my work every day. Thank you for inspiring me to continue and delve deeper and see the places I am still holding back.
Much love sister.
Wow wow wow! Thank you Tara for this amazing video!
This really resonated with me and was so lovely to see people being open and honest. I’m a Mum to two young boys and having just had a baby girl to our family I feel I’m refinding my femininity again- so thank you this came at the perfect time.
Ps you look gorgeous and glowing in your video!
xo
Babe… thank you thank you thank you for posting this and being so vulnerable. There is so much strength and beauty in your words and I totally resonate with this. We spoke about it in our session last year and I have been following your journey with this quietly but avidly. I feel like my path is echoing yours somewhat and it’s SO COMFORTING to know that I’m not alone in this.
I love what you said about shrinking around beautiful powerful women but being drawn to them – this is one of the reasons I’m drawn to you ;) and I am starting to finally realise also that it’s all a mirror :) and I’m taking steps to let the light shine through. So again, thank you for sharing.. love ya guts!!!
Tara, Tara, Tara – you are divine. Such a genuine, open hearted and beautiful video. I find the way you speak so calming and authentic.
I have been doing a lot of personal development work and healing over the last couple years, but know I still have a lot to let go of like you say in the video and there are still certain things I am holding onto that I don’t want to anymore.
Much love from my big beautiful heart to yours. x
Hello Tara :)
Thank you for this video, it’s hit home in a way I can’t yet define but ooh yes I’ve been hiding behind something and have been scared of wearing lippy even though I want to! I know it goes much deeper than this and I’m going to find the source.
You have an amazingly beautiful vulnerability that’s grounded and strong and I love it.
You really have been helping me to become myself over the last 6 months, and I thank you :) x
Dearest Tara….known as a goddess in Hinduism, a female Buddha in Buddhism and known mostly as a Star.
Your have truly lived up to what your name represents, shining with integrity and truth; a beaming light in your openness of heart and honesty to all.
Be proud of this gift you possess through your newly discovered woman power.
Thank you with abundant love on behalf of all whom your words reach and heal!!!
Yellows are flying as are my greens Tara. XOXO. L
Tara, what a beautiful video. I have always been a girly girl so to hear you talk about being one of the boys was very educational to me.
I was always chased by the boys and still to this day get all funny when someone mentions my femininity or makes a comment on my looks. I want to be seen for who I am and not what I look like so this video really resonated me.
Thanks x
Hi Tara,
This morning I woke up thinking about nourishing my femininity and letting go of the blockages that have stopped me from doing so for so long. And then you popped up in my feed this morning and made me smile and cry and feel as though you reached right into my soul and pulled out the fearless girl that’s been hiding behind the noise.
Thank you, you rocked my world today.
Kx
And you rocked mine.
You’re welcome honey.
Thank YOU x
Tara, thank you so much for sharing this post again. I hadn’t read/watched it yet and it comes at perfect timing. I’ve been wanting to write about femininity on my blog for awhile now and this gives me the courage to do so.
I too use to be so proud to ‘be one of the boys.’ I was terrified of actually being a girl for many reasons but the thing is, it’s beautiful and courageous to actually live within your skin that you were given and to do sometimes is scary. Especially when you’ve never felt fully accepted in your skin.
Femininity means so many things to me and currently I’m sorting it out but watching this has made me realize how much I want to understand mine.
Thank you :) xo