Demystifying Self Love Part Three: The Secret to Sisterhood

Let’s wrap up this three-part series on a mega-high…

I often hear people say ‘I can’t wait till I find my tribe, like you have’.

Or

‘You’re so lucky to have such strong bonds with your friends.’

It wasn’t always like this, and in my case, it took a lot of inner work for me to experience what is now an abundance of soulful friendships and connections. The women in my life make my life simply better. They make me feel proud of them and strong within myself. They make me laugh like I wasn’t sure I’d be able to again- like I did when I was a kid.

If you are one of these gorgeous souls who long to make manifest these connections in your life, you’ve got to do two things, pronto.

First of all, self love needs to become the number one priority; as difficult or as down right impossible as it might seem. Presence, acceptance, letting go, trusting, allowing yourself to feel what you need to feel in this moment; self love is about refusing to turn your back on yourself- and I know, it’s easier said then done, but it is a practice after all, and like all practices, it gets easier with time and patience.

And trust me, when these angels start showing up in your life (which they will!), you will know- rather, you will feel- and recognise, that they’re shining your bright light straight back atcha!

Put this one in your back pocket, too: you don’t get to escape from this one once perfect friendships arrive. Self love is a practice that is here to stay! Be gentle, and diligent- I promise it’s worth it.

Secondly, you need to start lovingly letting go of the friendships that are making you feel small. Again, this can be a gentle, soulful experience. It doesn’t have to feel hostile and resentful. There will most likely be a time when you feel lonely and isolated, and to make it even more uncomfortable, your ego will be whispering in your ear: You brought this upon yourself! Nonetheless, I encourage you to unfold in those moments. This is scared time that you’ve never before shared with yourself. It’s exploratory and quiet, and there’s every possibility that it can be magical. Start small and try just that simple re-frame- from ‘lonely’, to sacred.

Solo time like this is actively making room for miracles, after all, how can you manifest stronger connections in your life if you’re yet to make room for them?

And that emptiness you feel inside when you start stepping away from old friends- the party girls, the women at the office who complain all day, your high school crew- you don’t have to stuff that feeling away with distractions. You are allowed to feel empty. You are allowed to feel uncertain and a little lost. Again, this is about making room for the good shit.

Self Love is the CREATOR of a strong sisterhood.

Sisterhood is the inevitable, enriching result of your ongoing commitment to YOU.

Sisterhood can’t NOT be called forth, if you’re energetically investing in your vitality, spiritual wealth and inner joy.

It simply shows up.

The secret, in a sentence?

Treat yourself the way you’d like to be treated, and the be patient. Before you know it, you’ll be packing picnics for six, and holding space for your girlfriends to grow, and helping them celebrate the beautiful lives they’re creating, just as they do the same for you.

Turn around. Go inward, first. And stay there. Love wholly, in that place, to all of you, and then notice how easily you’re able to give and receive love when others come into the picture.

You already have everything you will ever need, babe. By celebrating yourself, you give others permission to do the same. Start now. You are enough.

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Beaming you bliss. x