Such Different Vixens: Felicia Spahr

If Fel had’ve written the copy on my sales page, I would have bowed at her feet and thanked the heavens.  But she didn’t – she did something much for potent – she taught ME how to write it.

This chicka is seriously unreal; her eye for detail is spooky and her ability to connect with my work? Spot on.  She got me.  She massaged out the hero in my story and gave me a powerful framework to flirt with, resulting in copy that not only rocks, but makes me feel proud to read.

But all professional radness aside, I’m crushing HARD on this woman.  Can you felt the svelte sass beaming out of her photos?  Yeah, I  know you can.  Get around her!

Sum up your mission in one sentence.

To help people understand and use the power of words, and shake the world with tectonic-plate-shifting communication.

Can you share with us one of your most vulnerable moments (and in hindsight, what made it so beautiful?).

I had been in a long-distance relationship for about 3 years. During which time, it was amazing–Iwas living in New York, and my boyfriend in California.

However, there was one thing I hadn’t been telling him.

It was how numb and empty I felt. How addicted I was to everything to feel whole, to feel alive.

Not because of him, but because of many unresolved, and tumultuous emotional issues from my past.

I wanted to be the happy one. I never wanted to fight–I was scared to.

Most of all, I was so worried about what felt so wrong with me that I couldn’t bring myself to tell him. I truly felt broken, and tragic.

During our 3rd year together, we broke up. Then we got back together. Then we broke up again.

I still hadn’t told him how I felt–how I was still feeling.

Then–there was a moment.

A moment I had after (finally) getting help.

Even though we weren’t together–I told him everything. Just bared the whole ugliness of it all.

And he still loved me.

Unconditionally, he loved me.

As someone who was so hell-bent on being stoic and never sharing how I truly felt, it was one of the most rare, beautiful moments I ever had–to know how much I was loved. As I was. In that moment.

And now we’re together for 7 1/2 years. How ’bout that? ;)

What turns you on?

Sex. Hair flips. Lingerie. Come hither eyes. Open spaces.

What makes your blood boil?

Someone trying to coax a feeling out of me that I actually don’t feel. Basically, when people project.

How do you define confidence?

 Oh, baby! Swagger. I always pay attention to how people walk–actually, I am obsessed with body language. That’s a tell-all for me. In that case, it’s always actions, not words.

When was the last time you experienced pure, unadulterated joy?  Can you give us the juicy details?

It was just the other morning–someone told me I had written them THE best intro email, ever. That’s what excites me. That’s what happens when you’re actually interested in people. I love that. Because I get to make friends and connect with people who I admire and can play with forever.

Looking back, how have you most GROWN?

Constantly becoming more self-aware and through that, knowing exactly what I need to do. I always know when I’m at a turning point and need to take it to the next level–it happens about every week. I’m growing constantly. And also reminding myself that I know nothing–I’m here to learn and play.

Combining my passions with a business I love makes me feel …

Like a freaking wizard. KaaaaCHOW.

Few people know this about me, but I …

Thought that if I started eating a raw diet and stopped eating like, cheese and meat, then a part of my personality would go away and people would see me different. Now that I eat (mostly) raw, people still think I’m a weirdo, but I’ve become a master at handling it. It’s amazing how we get trapped in trying to stay within the limits of our personality–if anything, it’s taught me about the flexibility of being able to change, whenever I want.

I secretly wish I could …

Speak Italian fluently. I am semi-fluent. But I mean like straight-on, speedy gonzalez Italian talk. I have a plan to invest in that goal for real by trying out this nifty looking program: www.speakfromday1.com

To me, the words ‘Such Different Skies’ mean …

A new place to step into, play in, and think in. No rules, just experimenting and doing and catching on to things that no one has before.

Fel rewrites and re-imagines her own story just about every day. Dedicated to discovery and the power of words, she is on a mission to shake the world with tectonic-plate-shifting communication–all of which she writes about at www.howtobeinstantlyirresistible.com. Twitter is fun (@felsgotswag), but she prefers emails with interesting subject lines and great things to talk about.

‘I know nothing–I’m here to learn and play.’  Ahh- freaking LOVE the sound of that.  And how about her definition of Such Different Skies?  Hell yes.  Let’s leave Fel some love in the comments.