The dark side of divine progress, of evolution, of the awakening of the real you?
Growing pains. Pangs of separation.
I’ve written and vlogged about this before, and suggested a few ways in which we can all quit judging others on our quest for the Ultimate Ultimate.
I believe it all (always) needs to boil down into a thick soup of love. We have a choice when we’re in the life-enhancing grip of change. Are we going to lead with love and kindness, or are we going to award ourselves a gold star of difference and turn a cold shoulder to those we deem ‘not up to our standards?’
I hope you’ll choose the former.
I’m not saying there’s never a time to walk away, because there certainly is – we need distance just as crucially as we need connectivity – but one thing’s for sure, we always get to decide how it is we course correct.
This video explores some further concepts that may help you widen your loving lens when it comes to friend detoxing.
Also, I play around with an analogy: what does cultivating a better relationship with money have to do with letting go of stale friendships?
Click PLAY to find out.
How about you? How have you handled growing pains in your relationships? Are you experiencing some now? Take action and share with us in the comments any shifts or perspectives you gained in this video.
All bliss (and LOVE),
Tara
You are an angel. A topic SO close to my heart and I love how beautifully you bring this topic to light. I have struggled with this big time in the past, and in moments where I could so easily have let my ego pull others apart for what I at timse felt was wrong, to make a choice for it just to be, and to take different roads and that’s ok. It’s a far nicer path to travel.
Love you lady! xx
Hi Tara!!!
That’s so beautiful and it touched me deeply! I’ve always been such a drama queen and when I began my transformation (one year and a half ago) one of the first things I faced was the way I reacted on changes or whenever a relationship faded away, and trust me I was a troublemaker on the lettting go area hahaha… I’ve been driven by the “I’m being attacked” mode on and on, my ego used to go crazy at times and thanksfully I was blessed to open myself for change and I’m greatful Universe showed me spirited people like you right away to be everyday inspired to keep on moving, evolving and lighting up the world around me <3
Thank you for this post and for the many others that felt like a hug on my heart (okay, also for those ones that felt like a push for me to open my eyes ahaha)! I send you so much love, light and a tight hug from Brazil dear!!!
xoxo, Ma.
“Love those you feel aren’t loving you. Love them anyway.” mmmmmm I love that Tara. So powerful.
Thanks for another great lesson :) xxx
Your insight and advice is very helpful, I really need it, I use it and I am happier than ever so thank you! But: I am beginning to think some of my friends don’t want me to be happy. I had some trouble with a friend and collegue I had to do some work with. I had been feeling this negative energy from him but I was determined to keep a smile on my face (and inside). Until last week when I spontaneously confronted him since I was so tired of him messing up the good vibes we’ve got going at work. I should have known better. He screamed at me all these awful, meen, hurtful things and he hit all my soft spots and I know he knew it would hurt me. After this he apologised and then he became in a better mood for every hour that went by and the day after everything worked just fine between us. But I feel hurt because I can’t understand why he got angry with me when I was being happy, and why he wanted to hurt me and most of all how it made him feel better to make me sad? Please help me understand, anyone. Thank you!!
Tara Bombara!!!!!
Thank you Sista. Felt myself doing the whole “I’m just vibin’ at a higher energy than her now” thang lately. Such a cop out.
Love your idea of resonance. Still all about the energy but it doesn’t bring the ego’s “I’m better than her” into it.
Thanks again Girlfriend.
xxxx
I love love LOVE YOU. That is all.
Xx
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So so good…..
You are an earth ANGEL! x
You are an earth FAIRY my love :) xo
HI Tara, I love this and its really very moving, BUT, I find a lot of people in the spiritual world to be very judgemental of people like myself who are moving from that old life. This sometimes conflicts me and I feel myself going back to those old ways as I feel thats where I belong. Maybe my self esteem is completely shot, but every time I try to hang with or in the spiritual/enlightened world, I feel so much judgment. Im not super thin or an amazing yoga diva, I eat sugar and honey and even bread and I honestly feel the need to conform in this world and be a certain way, so profound at times and it scares me and I go back to my old ways and friends, who just don’t seem to judge. Ive left a yoga class once, didn’t even walk in the door, as I didn’t feel I had the right clothing on!! I wish more ‘evolved’ people subscribed to your blog and listened to what you say. I feel that you are definitely the ‘real deal’.
So, so beautiful x
Just like you xo
Thank you beautiful girl. I have been struggling with how to acknowledge the end of a friendship, and you have really helped to bring clarity and love to that situation. Thank you. xx
You’re welcome honey :) xo
Beautiful Tara. This message of living your own authentic path, graciously & lovingly, without expecting others to follow or judging others for “not keeping up” is so vital for our own continued growth. Our Egos love us to judge…. ooh yeah! It’s a daily practice, i believe, to act with grace. Beautiful words of wisdom from you, thank you x
Gorgeous awareness beautiful girl xo
Geeez I love how I can just come to your site and find the exact guidance I need on the issues I’m facing.
You are like my personal online guru Tara and I thank you endlessly x
“You’re not leaving anyone behind, you’re actually liberating them”. Wow. Such wisdom. Right now I’m going through some pretty big changes and I’m feeling the need to let go of some relationships and also to leave my current career too. This video spoke to me on so many levels. Thanks hun xx