This is me as a brunette mountain bunny, in Banff, Canada. Circa March 2012
I felt really compelled to make this video for you. It’s important.
I think I can safely speak for us all is declaring that we all want to live glorious, intuitive lives; with spiritual sight that allows us to determine Right Paths and Aligned Opportunities. We want to feel supported by what holds this whole thing called Life together, and we want that support served with a side of clarity.
It’s difficult to cultivate an openness to this brand of peace when we’re stifled by the pinch of a pressure that whispers: I just don’t know what’s next.
Uncertainty can undo us. When we fear the unknown, we also unplug from the present moment, and choose (subconsciously or not) to collect images and memories from our past and project them into the future, in an attempt to formulate a model of predictability.
This is an incredibly human thing to do, and there’s no shame in it. We become afraid – sometimes to the point of paralysis – which clouds our judgement and dulls our senses and pulls us away from what’s true and right. What I hope you’ll take from this video is comfort in understanding that a) this happens to everyone, and b) your life situation is exactly as it must be in this moment.
I know that often that’s the last thing we want to hear, but before you roll your eyes, I encourage you to press play on this video, where I offer four ways you can embrace the unknown and be patient with the pain.
Please excuse the part where I say ‘encaptures’ – I think that’s a word I created: half ‘captures’ and half ‘encapsulates’. ;)
In Sacred Contracts, a game-changing book written by Carolyn Myss, she says:
‘Dis-aster’ means ‘from the stars,’ indicating a long-held belief that bad things happen for reasons known only by the heavens.
I believe this, sweet potato. I really do. It blows sometimes. It’s inconvenient and caustic, but beneath all that, I know in my heart that it’s true. My wish is that you can find it within yourself to believe it too. For your sanity, yes, but also as a way to strengthen your faith.
‘Before enlightenment, chop wood and carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood and carry water.’ – Zen proverb
When your fears and insecurities and shadows front up, turn to the divine. When life is laced with ease and fluidity and opportunity, again, nestle into the divine, if only to say thank you.
I’d love to hear from you in the comments, chicka.
Share with us in the safe space of this comment feed a difficulty that you’re either facing right now, or have processed recently, and allow the gift to unravel. How has it served you? What light has it shone on your life? When we bring the darkness into the light, we become miracle workers, shape shifters.
PS: Have you said YES to the 2014 Spirited Companion? Much like this post, it offers Spirited Solutions to What’s Holding You Back – a resource that will support you on your mission to make the next twelve or so months (and beyond) beautiful.
PPS: Don’t forget to like this post and share it with your mates! (Please and thank you)
Sitting here with tears rolling down my face. Just astounding my dear- thank you from the bottom of my heart- xx
And from the bottom of mine, you are welcome. Love you x
Tara thank you so much for making this beautiful video! I feel like you’re speaking directly to my personal situation and your words are so empowering to me. I feel a little less hopeless now thank you for warming my heart today :-)
I AM speaking directly at you, babe!
:)
Thank you for this, Tara. I love watching your videos, but this one definitely was divinely timed (as well as beautiful, of course). Right now I think I’m saying no to the typical go of things, particularly romantic relationships/dating. I’m saying no to all the “rules” and expectations I feel are just understood. Also with Thanksgiving and the holidays coming up, I’m saying no to my anxieties running the show, no to diet talk, no to falling back on old habits!
Thanks for all the love & light you bring to all of us readers!
xx Shea
You’re so welcome beautiful. I’m glad it has helped you.
I love your NO declarations. Don’t stop.
xxx
Holy Crow I needed this!
I’ve just completed my Uni degree and I have no idea where to go from here. I’m applying for all kinds of jobs but its a time where uncertainty is rife for me. It’s also the first time in my life where I don’t have a clear path set in front of me. I guess this is the Universe telling me I have to relax my grip and surrender which is scary.
Thank you for making me feel more at ease!
Love Steph
Hang in there girlfriend!
And land your butt in meditation :)
Beautiful Tara. In 2011 I desperately wanted to leave hairdressing but my apprenticeship just kept getting put back and I really wanted to finish it before leaving. Then I was diagnosed with an illness. I was being physically forced to let it go and leave hairdressing without even having another job and honestly there was a sense of relief in that. Funnily enough, everything worked out. My apprenticeship was signed off, I took four weeks off and was offered a job by one of my old hair models and it ended up being the perfect job for me and what was going on.
Oh and what I say no to: Today I say no to doing hair even on family members. This was really hard at first but so necessary for me.
My gosh woman, do you know how to connect or what? Absolutely adoring your videos, particularly this one. I had forgotten a pivotal bit of advice that you reignited here: the Universe gives us what we NEED not what we WANT. Wow. If I sit with these words, it takes away the anxiety, it instills a sense of trust, and it tells me not to manipulate but be patient. It lifts the weight. I’ve been through a massive shift and it wasn’t easy but so so divine. And all the icky tricky painful stuff that I reflect on, I asked for it on a deeper level to get to here. To get to this spirited life and it was exactly what i needed. I took the redundancy package i was offered by my previous ‘dream job’, I packed my bags and farewelled my family and friends with my recently renewed love of my life and dove deep deep deep into the unknown. I got creative and really channelled my energy to create my blog Paper Planes. And it’s frigging awesome! Sure, doubts and insecurities raise their heads now and then but it is what I NEED. My no: I will not accept work opportunities out of fear and if they will not move me forward
<3 <– massively inflated heart
Scared again (bumping up against mental/emotional comfort zone edges)
Teary
Thankful
Full of something to unpack and unfurl with courageous hands.
A favourite post.
Thank you, thank you.
xo
Tara. Wow. You seriously have a thing for divine timing, you gorgeous soul.
I have struggled with uncertainty and not being supported all this year. I was even talking with a friend about it today. She said the same thing as you: that you get what you NEED not what you want.
Thanks from the bottom of my heart. This is just another sign from the universe that I am supported. Much love xxx
Thanks Tara, you have put into words how I have been feeling.
The beautiful chaos of the universe.
I will say NO to being a little version of my supervisor.
I will be me.
Tara. BEA-UTIFUL as usual.
At the moment I am saying no to MEDIOCRITY.
I am passionately working to break through my limiting beliefs to realise that I don’t have to settle for a life that society has me shoe boxed in to.
Thanks for reminding me to surrender! I think it is the best piece of advice to follow.
Surrendering opens us up to the present moment and forces us to live in the now!
Big love to you Tara.
Seriously though? Are you writing this blog directly to me? Because often it seems like you are.
I am coming up against a situation in my life again and again, over and over and just cannot seem to figure out why (or how to resolve it). The idea that this situation could actually be the answer to my prayers is mind blowing.
I will sit and ponder it now.
Again, many thanks and much love.
:)
As always, you nailed it. Exactly what I needed to hear this morning beautiful. What will I say no to? I’ve just decided that I’m not going to post to my website for the next three weeks, and instead take the time to reconnect with ME again. (Scary stuff!)
I was starting to feel overwhelmed and scared again, and after all the work I’ve done this year (with you and with myself!) I knew I needed to un-commit. Now I have the space to de-clutter my life, meditate everyday again, reconnect with my spirit guides, and get ready to LAUNCH my best 2014.
Thank you beautiful soul sister.
xx
Wow Tara, that was just what I needed to hear this New Years Eve night. I love what you were saying about the sensitivities, I’d never really thought of it like that, I’ve found out so many sensitivities this year and you’re right my prayers are being answered.
What I need to say no to – is people expectations of me and their opinions, it stops me from being me, knowing who I am (I’m not sure who I really am), following my gut and my passions. I’m looking forward to 2014 as a year of more discovery and really looking forward to continuing reading your blog. You have such an amazing talent of speaking, it’s fantastic.
‘I’m not sure who I really am.’
Babe – I LOVE that.
I wrote about this myself: http://suchdifferentskies.com/im-back-idea/
Thank you for this gorgeous comment. I’m grateful. x