When was it?
The last time you made a promise that this time, you’ll stick to your routine. Or that this time, you’ll never waver. Or that this time, you’ve (finally) got it all figured out?
Are we gluttons for punishment, or something? Surely we know by now that overly grandiose structures and predictions leave us scratching our heads and dusting off the dirt we tripped in.
What are these declarations weaved with, anyway? Because I suspect it’s not soul-truth, and rather, an external longing to satisfy an intrinsic hunger.
This isn’t an invitation to become a desire-less drone. Nope. But it’s certainly a conversation about loosening up and having a laugh at ourselves when that unwelcome dose of self-disappointment comes knocking.
Press PLAY, and let’s just see what happens.
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I’d love to hear from you below. Care to share with us a crazy construct that your mind has latched onto? An over-the-top goal that’s difficult to appease? A self-proclaimed expectation that you’re willing to sideline? The comment section is wide open :)
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That I MUST complete a yoga and meditation session everyday whilst travelling (Don’t want to loose my flex, form and thus credibility as a teacher while ‘out of office’ for 6 months right – oh hi ego)….Ha! sure was easier back home when I had at least some semblance of routine to call upon…..This expectation has clearly been loosened to a do it when I can or when I feel like it goal! xo.
Oh honey, I hear ya! Guilty as charged my friend. I ran myself through the ringer in Japan earlier in the year.
Such is the human condition :) Let’s hope it’s the little reminders like this that stick with us – to loosen our grip and enjoy the ride. So much love honey
You’re so lovely Tara, I just want to put you in my pocket! x
Thanks Trace :)
I just received your email and read the first line, and BAM! totally resonated with me! Such a great, honest video! It’s amazing how many times I thought “yes, THIS is IT, I’ve really got it this time”. And the funny thing is, I mean it every time! Yet, as you say, life is such that you can’t keep it up all the time, and I got so disappointed every time I did not stick to my plan, as if I was somehow inauthentic. Your video really helped refocus on the fact that actually I do mean it, because in those moments I really do feel great and I am at an awesome place and I really do want to be there ALL the time. But that does not mean I will, nor does it mean that if I am not, I am not doing my best. Tara, your energy is amazing, thank you for all your awesomeness! Lots of love x
Thanks babe!
Isn’t it awesome to shine a spotlight on these homebase behaviours of ours? I know exactly what you mean about believing it ‘every single time’. Sounds like your speaking about my very own archives.
Just goes to show these videos are as much for me and they are for you guys :)
so so so true. but so so so not what my little PLANNER of an ego wants to hear… ‘if I could just put this perfectly planned concoction of daily activities into motion (meditation and affirmations and intentions and yoga and gratefulness and maybe even a green juice or seven… a quick tarot reading…)… then… THEN….. TOTAL INNER PEACE AND WELLNESS WILL BE MIIIINE… MUAHAHAHAH’
shut up mind/ego you’re insane. Thank you Tara! I was getting caught up in the crazy. Who CAAAARREES
Tara, I always leave your vlogs with one feeling… LOVE!
You always hit the nail on the head in such a nurturing way, I’ve been really aware of the waves of resistance and happiness this year. When it first started happening, I would almost be in tears feeling like I am not good enough for my business (which clearly makes no sense, it is MY business – I define the success) now when I feel it come I know to take a day off the computer and take some time out to recharge and be inspired.
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I do this all the time. The last time was this morning. I get so annoyed at myself when I fail and each time I do it chips at my self esteem. I just realised it’s coming from a place of fear, “I have to do this, or I’m not good enough”. I love the idea of just being super grateful for the experience instead. Thank you so much, you’re vlogs always seem to hit me at the core, like you’re speaking directly to my soul. Thank you, thank you, thank you! xx
Your videos are always so timely Tara thankyou so much x
Ah yes! I love how you (and Mastin) reframed resistance as a milestone that means you’re getting somewhere. I needed that today.
Oh Tara, freakin’ revolutionary post as always! I love, love, love this whole awareness session. I have recently had a lot of these realisations around morning exercise, maintaining a regular exercise routine, meditation practice. Heck, even this morning I realised I have been immediately setting myself up with a ‘bad’ judgement every single day of life (for years now) because I don’t get to work by 8am – something that a loved one mentioned was important to them years ago and for some reason, I took that on as a benchmark. Interestingly enough, every single time I get to that moment of “I’m going to do this forever”, or “I’m going to do this every day”, the energy shifts and the activity loses its potency. Ego takes over and mindfulness tends to go out the window. But your fine words make me realise that’s all that is needed: mindfulness of where I’m at today. Thanks beautiful! x
Tara there is such a light in your eyes when you talk about this stuff – it makes me feel it as passionately as you do.
This is happening to me big time lately – especially around movement and exercise. I tell myself I’m going to commit to this three times a week – however with a 16 month old and life commitments (that everyone has!) it just gets pushed to the side.
I need to realise that this is one of those moments where it will happen when it’s meant to.
I’m just gonna grab my board and ride the wave!!
Thanks so much for this xx
Ohhhh I LOVE this. What a great time it popped up too. Yes. Yes. Yes.
Awesome work.
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WOW!! Your vlog came in a such good time!
This morning I got myself saying “I will do this yoga every single day!” lol
Thank you for your words… I feel the love and authenticity from them!
This video should be played to all new mums. I see it a lot where new mothers struggle with those early months or years with a new child. I know I certainly did. Have no expectation that you will still able to do everything you did before baby came along. Throw it out the window and ease up on the must do’s. It creates so much disappointment and sadness sometimes.
Ah, so timely this vlog of yours! Thank you Tara :-). Totally resonated with everything you said.
You really do deliver your vlogs with such peace and tranquility – I love tuning into them xx
You speak so much truth always, it just radiates through you, I can’t tell you never have to “try to think” of what to share you just open your heart and it flows. You teach what you are, not just what you know, and that is truly inspiring girlfriend!
I was always being hard on myself about discipline and structure, because I am very creative and move quickly from being inspired by one thing to the next…the conversations go a bit like this “Bec, you can’t buy more books until you finish the last ones you bought” “But I don’t want to read the rest of that book, I want to read this new stuff” “but you HAVE to finish the books”….
Tara, that was such a beautiful post!! The about going up and down and being in the flow of life was so great. This was just what I needed to hear today. Thank you for sharing.
Oh honey, this video was simple perfection.
It’s all about realising war are in the flow of things and accepting what it looks like rather than trying to turn it into something else. Why do we create mountains out of molehills when half the time we would rather go on a walk than a trek up Mt. Everest?
Right now I am enjoying a different change of pace in my life in different areas and instead of resisting it or berating myself for the “should’ve, would’ve, could’ves” I am embracing, accepting and trusting that all is divinely right.
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This just pulled me out of a week long funk/depression.
I’ve been on the up for a while now and then I became sick with dehydration. Momentum, gone. Motivation, out the door. Positivity, can’t find it anywhere.
I’ve been beating myself up the last few days and spent the majority of my three day weekend in bed feeling miserable and sorry for myself.
Ride the wave, enjoy the flow. I enjoy this outlook. I get so pressured by routines and schedules. I needed to hear this, I can’t think you enough for doing what you do.
Now, perhaps a shower? ;)
Ahhh. big deep breath. atta girl x
I know I’m late to this post but I couldn’t not comment. This is exactly what I’ve been dealing with lately and the subject of my most recent blog post. New ventures always make me want to plan out the feelings of success well before I’ve even started. It’s a hard lesson to learn but approaching new things (or most recent attempts at old, good for me habits) with a sense of playfulness and curiosity is really the only way to stick with it in the long term. Thanks for encouraging this idea!