Three years ago. New Zealand. Lager. One happy girl.
My friends, it’s time.
Christmas parties. Free-flowing fine wine. The clinking of glasses to the chorus of Cheers!. Indulgence. Excess. The odd chaser of regret.
It’s a time of year that promises an abundance of fun and memory making, but it’s enough to make any Peace Seeker more than a little nervous.
Seductive and enticing – that’s what this time of year is.
I’m writing all of this with a smile on my face. For us down here in the southern hemisphere, instead of celebrating the festivities White Christmas style, we raise our pints of beer in the summer sunshine, dip in and out of the warm ocean (or family pool), get stuck into cold prawns slathered in thousand island dressing, suffer sun stroke, and drink to the wee hours of the morning, when the air is still balmy and humid.
It’s summer time, bitchez, and we’re wild and free.
Until – and this was certainly true for me – the Party loop starts to feel less freeing, and more constricting. Cagey. Fakey. A little old.
It’s with total compassion and a heart full of good humour that I offer you three questions you can ask yourself this festive season before you neck that bottle of Moet and flirt with your boss.
It is possible to have a peaceful holiday, Party Girl. Promise.
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Can I let you in on a secret? On January 18, I’m closing the door on the Party Girls Guide to Peace. Yep, I’m putting her in lockdown, bolting down the hatches, and tending to the community behind closed doors.
Will I reopen it? The short answer is no. Certainly not in the form it’s currently in, and most definitely not any time soon.
If you’re ready to make the journey from Party Girl to Peace Seeker, I encourage you to bounce on in to the program and kick off what will be a life-changing experience for you.
Check out what’s been going on in the community in the last week or so:
At the end of my first alcohol free weekend in a long time #feelingproud. All set for Monday morning, bring it on – Joanne
Hey ladies. I attended my first Christmas Party of the season last night, and wanted to share with you. I enjoyed amazing food, music and company whilst sipping on my mineral water all evening. The best part? I remember every second & did not feel deprived at any point. It’s all about the devotion now x – Samantha
Hi Ladies, so I just got back from an interstate wedding in Tassie feeling great having had a few sips of champagne and dancing for hours with a cup of green tea in my hand at the end of the night!! Remembering everything, regretting (well, almost!) nothing. Thankyou Tara Bliss and all the party girls! Just knowing you’re there makes this journey much easier… Knowing I can share a triumph with this community is comforting xx – Vicki
Anyone care to craft some Party season declarations? Go right ahead – the comment section is your public announcement system.
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Merry Christmas Tara xo Thank you for being such an engaging, beautiful, and truthful soul. xx
And to you honey. Your love and attention over this way has been witness and appreciated like you wouldn’t be believe.
Love you x
Oh my goodness – first light-bulb moment at 6am.
You know, we are all SO into our early morning gratitude lists (and rightly so) but I never considered the feeling of gratitude when my head hits the pillow. That is such a beautiful way to look at it.
Thank you so much beautiful. Have a wonderful holiday and well done for such a stellar 2013!
xxx
Anytime sweet girl. Thank YOU xx
Aha! Moment for the day #1…….gratitude when I go to sleep, not just when I wake up and the day is still full of possibilities. I love the feeling of a night out that’s done with peace, grace and conviction to my health and what I want….and not what some of my friends expect me to do.
I am just now getting to the stage where it actually doesn’t bother me if someone disagrees or doesn’t understand my choices. It my journey. Not theirs.
Much love Tara & all other beautiful souls who follow this,
Kate.
You’re becoming more sovereign, and this makes me SO happy. Thank you so much for sharing.
Have a great weekend babe x
Thank you so much… that video was so timely and much needed. I had a bit of a soulful cry because it’s exactly where I’m at and I feel sooo rejuvenated. Keep shining god’s light. XXX
Wiping away those tears for you babe. *sniff.
Huge love x
Thanks so much tara! The part about where you said what part of you wants to get drunk really resonated with me. I have been struggling a lot lately with people’s expectations and the pressure to drink more as it approaches Christmas and I only just realised that perhaps rather than just having no willpower I hadn’t recognised the need in myself to not be seen as the weird one for not feeling like a drink this year. Thanks for the aha moment, it was just what I needed to hear before the week ahead . Merry Christmas
Ah, this made me smile. You’re so welcome honey.
Just do the best you can. Be gentle with yourself xx
Another pearl of wisdom- thank you gorgy:) this year has seen massive personal transformation for me and of course Tara, you have been one of my angels. Thank you gorgeous for sharing your uniqueness and helping in not just mine but many women’s journey back home. You have stood beside me while I changed directions and having the PGGP and SDS has been so supportive. Merry Christmas babe x
I stumbled upon your site today by chance.I am so happy that I did! I am in the early stages of my own personal journey towards acceptance and self-love. I have struggled with sobriety and the feelings of insecurity and vulnerability. Your questions hit home with me and I will take them with me and find strength during this stressful time of the year.
Thank You Tara. Merry Christmas.
Oh I am so happy to hear this Kia. Thanks so much for sharing.
HNY xx
Hi Tara,
I’ve been meaning to write for you a while (so apologies it’s not actually relevant to this post, although I do love this post and totally resonate with it, I gave up my partying a few years ago when my desire to be my true self became greater than the need to fit in with ‘the norm’).
What I really wanted to say though was just a generic thank you and let you know that I think you’re awesome!!! I’ve been reading your blog on and off for a while and you have inspired me a lot! You’ve also pushed my buttons and made me feel agitated… I know you’ll understand what I mean. It’s the good agitation… the kind that nudges me out of my comfort zone. Your blog inspires me to keep going on the path I’m on and it prompts me to dream even bigger.
I love your honesty, your vulnerability and I particularly loved the Bali blogs! (oh and I have Spirited and it’s amazing – thank you & well done).
Wishing you a Merry Christmas and an awesome 2014.
xxx
Haha I know EXACTLY what you mean ;)
Thanks so much for being here Sarah, I hope you’ll stick around xx
Hey Tara, I soooo need Peace. Spirited is guiding me right where I need to go, so Thank You and Rach! Some of the words I’ve written in response have been hard to read and reality check spotlights where my Shadow is hiding. I’m not a Party Girl, but I am a mamma who drinks red wine to relax and unwind. Perhaps I need to welcome PGG2P into my life? I still have your lovely guided meditation to try out and I’ve taken your advice concerning some crystal choices. Busting down a few barriers to get to where I need to go. Holding you in gratitude for all you bring into the world. xo
So glad to have you as part of the PGG2P babe xxx
This will be short and sweet – beautiful message Tara, so important!! And your hair looks amazing!! Keep shining bright honey xx
The Soul Container… Yes… Tara I cannot wait to see what you have in store for 2014 girl… I admire you and your container-breaking so much… x x x
:) Love you x