You’ve been taking your seat for meditation daily, for weeks.
You’ve reached new depths on your yoga mat. Your hips? They’ve opened. Your spine? It’s elongated. Your heart? Humming.
Your skin has cleared up. Your friendships are glowing. You bounce out of bed with sprite. Synchronicities are side-swiping you into a tizzy of wonder, of awe.
And you think to yourself: I deserve this, I’ve been a good girl.
You’ve abandoned your meditation cushion.
Your body feels stifled and tight; like it’s full of creatures that are feeding on your muscles, and shortening them.
Your energy is stagnant. You’ve lost your sparkle. You’re flu-ish, fatigued and feeling more than a little fed up.
And you think to yourself: What if all this ‘spiritual’ stuff is just a load of bullshit.
Today’s video is in response to one of my readers, Aimee. Depending on her circumstance, she questions her faith in the Divine, in herSelf, in her Dreams.
What I had intended to be a short and sharp reminder that we are always being offered our medicine in the moment, turned out to be a ten minute download of sorts about coming to terms and accepting the cyclic nature of life. I have edited out what was unnecessary, but I believe each of these ten minutes will serve you. So please, listen along, sweet potato. I vow I will not waste your time.
This past weekend, I revisited Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map, because I knew that the Core Desired Feelings I had chosen at the beginning of the year were making me feel prickly. This time, I came up with five words, and my ego was mortified at their simplicity.
Usually, I try to infuse the process with at least a sprinkling of ‘advanced’ vocabulary.
Not this time. I wanted simple words. Short, four or five letter words, that –BOOM! – remind me of what’s critical. Words that remind me that yes, in fact, I am supported.
The first word that came to me, was: HELD.
In The Desire Map, Danielle recommends steering away from words that depend on outside influencers in order to achieve that feeling. For example, feeling ‘loved’ implies that I need someone to love me. Feeling ‘respected’ implies that I need to receive respect off someone else.
But, held.
‘Held’ is different.
‘Held’ is my signpost that reminds me that I am supported in the moment.
That I can return to my heart space.
To my spiritual practice.
To my breath.
That I can, in essence, hold myself. And I will. Because when I do, I know (know, know, know) that the Divine is holding me through me.
In the comments section below, I want you to think of a time in your past that you perceived as tough. Using the magical wand of hindsight, share with us what blessings unraveled from that experience.
If you’re stuck in the mud in this moment, widen your lens, drop into your heart, look down at yourself from one of the corners of the roof in the room you’re sitting in, and ask yourself: How am I being supported right now? If you feel called to comment with your discovery, we’re all here to hear you.
I’d love it if you could share this post with your community.
All bliss,
Tara
Related posts you might like:
+ What Do You Believe In? https://staging.tarabliss.com.au/what-do-you-believe-in/
+ The Answer to Your Prayers: https://staging.tarabliss.com.au/answer-to-your-prayers/
Thank you so much for this post, Tara. Such a beautiful reminder :) This came at the perfect time! xo
Oh Tara
Your words lately popping into my inbox and are like a warm hug, soothing my soul!
Thankyou so much for posting this message today.
You are such a beautiful soul!
Simone:)
As are you honey!
OH! Have I needed to hear this. Shit storm/ Divine storm is right. If I can say one thing I’ve learned is that I have no control over my life…and that it’s happening as it should.
Again, the timing of your words are another example to that. Thank you!
xo
:)
Thank you for this beautiful vlog Tara! I love listening to your messages every week. I often play the victim in my own mind and I find myself asking “why am I all alone?” I lost my job in December and now have no money and no income. I live in the middle of NSW, far from my friends and family. I would love to go home, yet I can’t afford to get there. Everything I’ve been scared of seems to have manifested – I was scared of being poor, I was scared of being alone, I was scared of being unsuccessful. I’ve felt like giving up so many times. But when I slow down and contemplate things with an open mind I sometimes wonder if this is where I’m supposed to be. I’ve been on a wellness journey over the past year. I discovered meditation, I enjoy my own company more, I’m taking note of all the things I have to be grateful for, I have a partner who is happy to provide for me while I study nutrition and embark on this personal journey. My old life was full of distraction and I always found myself seeking the approval of others. I never really listened to what I wanted for myself. Perhaps isolation and a lack of work and money is exactly what I need right now to change my course and move in a new direction. Perhaps I should just stop struggling, surrender and see what happens!
I would absolutely dig for the gift darling. This video might help too: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qxSppnLB0oU
Thanks for the link. I think I just went through a whole box of tissues watching Mastin’s talk, I love it how we hear exactly what we need to hear when we stop and listen :) xox
O M G !! 2:43 – 3:05 is exactly what I needed to hear right now Tara. The way you expressed that through words was perfection for me. Thank you for taking the time to spread your wisdom. Bright love. xx
:) I’m happy those words found you xo
And what do you know? Yesterday, after writing this post, I pulled my back in yoga.
Time to slow down, focus on the breath, and BE.
I hope your back is feeling better :)
Another beautiful post, overflowing with love, gentleness and generosity of spirit. Thank you Tara x
:D xo
Beautiful post!! Really needed that today,thanks so much for the share!!
You’re welcome babe xo
Lovely vlog.yes sometimes shit happens and it has nothing to do with the universe so don’t look there. It is what it is. When I feel blah , unsupported etc my first instinct is to go underground for a few days. It always grounds me. No coffee, stimulating foods, movies etc. Just quite time.
I really loved the section about being a ‘good girl’ and a ‘bad girl’ in relation to the circumstances we are experiencing. During really tough times I find those thoughts creeping in for sure. There really is no such thing as good or bad is there. Simply going down your path learning what you need to learn. Sometimes veering off, but always finding your way back. My health challenges have really pushed me these past few months to find a way of ‘letting go’, and I think this sums it up beautifully. I remember my teacher saying to me a while ago that there was no such thing as punishment. The universe doesn’t know that perception, that’s all me and the eyes in which I see the world, and see myself.
As always, a lovely post xx
Absolutely. The Universe doesn’t ‘believe’ in democracy, or right or wrong. Know what I mean? We need to stop thinking that the Universe ‘thinks’ like a human. It’s all divine xo
thank you ………..
any time xo
Thank you for this post Tara… funny how things can come along at a time when you need them!! :) xoxo
:) you’re welcome
Yes I can relate, I have felt both sides to this story and am loving feeling reminded by the fact that I am where I am supposed to be and what I project becomes my reality…. Tonight I walked home from work, the street path lit up with bright lights and dark tree shadows of all sorts… And as I observed both extreme shades of light/dark I said to myself I see both shades but I choose to walk through the light! Corny I know but true!
Another gorgeous video Tara! I’m currently dealing with a bout of Bali belly myself – time to surrender! Xx
This is so beautiful, Tara. I wish I had this video a few years ago when I was going through my own Divine Storm (aka my early twenties). When you’re going through a dark time, it is really difficult to remember that you’re loved and cared for and held (love that word) by something bigger than yourself. I’ve been there and it is a dark and scary place. What helped me get out of a very serious depression (to put it mildly), was taking baby steps every day to show myself I was worth it and growing my faith muscles in the process. If you’re in that place, it’s hard to switch over to “the Universe loves me” but thinking something bigger than me could help me get through the day, could help me eat a meal without using my eating disorder, could help me be happier each day, those little steps grew into a lot of faith that the divine really does support me. Thank you for putting this out there and for being you. I know this video will help a lot of people! <3
Hi Tara, thank you love reading your posts and they always come in divine timing. Love the party girls guide to Peace. When you do share those special moments at a restaurant with you partner, I wanted to ask you do you have that little glass of wine sometimes.? As it’s something I enjoy, but don’t want to feel guilty for xx thanks and keep up that loving great work xx
Oh my YES! I have learned to embrace those shit storms……all because of you Tara and your wonderful guidance. Nope, it ain’t an easy ride by no means. Once you DO learn to embrace it, strangely enough it does become easier. I had one of these moments a few weeks ago, and I waded into it determined to surrender to that crappy feeling and just like magic, it dissipated. I could feel my ego trying to pull me back in but I persevered. I acknowledged it, thanked it, and then politely told it to go f*ck itself.
Again, I thank you Tara. You.are.awesome. :)
Namaste
I’m actually twirling in the ‘eye of the storm’ right now so to speak but the first thing I think of in response to this post is a quote a friend sent to me saying ‘Don’t be afraid to start over, it’s a chance to rebuild what you want’. So within this mess, in the stillness amidst it all, my truth knows that I’ve been forging on past gentle soul whispers, turning a blind eye to that niggling sense. Lot’s of little messages have been neglected and instead of leaving them behind in my fast sprint, they caught up to me with a vengeance to make sure I take notice at last. So I think in times of funky yuck-ness there usually is a point of clarity we find. Something we’ve been denying perhaps or not wanting to see/feel. So I believe it’s not about being good vs bad but simply trusting our unique guidance, and when we fail to be true to ourselves and that inner voice, life will dish out major hiccups but it’s only because it wants you to fall over, it wants you to break, so that you HAVE to reassess your direction and hopefully course-correct. It sure as hell does not feel like support when you’re in the deep abyss but I truly believe that it IS support, support to make you listen to what life knows you really need and where you should be headed. xxxx
I knew I needed to hear your voice today… And that it would be perfect x
:) Love you xo